It’s not a whim or a mental effeminacy, but the real problem that can happen to anyone of us.
Despite the fact that depression affects up to 10% of the adult population in the society, there remains a bias towards this issue. In the United States every year 16 million hits to the experts, in Russia less, but that doesn’t mean we live more fun. Just decided not to pay attention, neither his nor relatives.
Every year in our country suffer from depression about 14 million people, more than live in Moscow.
It is highly likely that among Your acquaintances there is a person suffering from depression. And perhaps, You often wonder how to talk to a friend, colleague or family member who is susceptible to the disease: what can be said and what is not.
People suffering from depression, say those who’ve never experienced not fully understand the despair and loneliness that are the usual companions of this disease. But still there are ways to help our friends and loved ones in distress.
The first thing soft and friendly to help people to find a specialist.
WHY DEPRESSION IS IMPORTANT TO GO TO THE DOCTORS?
First, because the cause of depression may be physiological factors: hormonal changes, problems with the thyroid gland, kidneys, anemia etc that won’t pass by itself, and requires serious medical treatment.
Second, even depression, caused solely by psychological problems, in most cases quickly is facilitated by properly chosen medicines. A further work with a therapist could remove the problem entirely.
Try to handle depression on your own is to expect that the Appendix will be held by itself (Yes, it happens, but 1 time per million).
WHAT TO SAY TO A MAN IN DEPRESSION
I’M WITH YOU
Don’t just talk but act accordingly. That is, once saying these words, do not consider its mission accomplished and regularly visit your friend or relative in a state of depression. Offer him help in finding a doctor, ensure he did not miss the visits to the specialist, give him all possible support. For man, the oppressed depression, it is important to know that he is not indifferent to anyone.
LET’S DO SOMETHING TOGETHER
Depressed people tend again and again to go back to the past, reliving negative episodes or repeatedly imagining might turn differently one or the other situation.
Unfortunately, this kind of vicious circle can only aggravate the depression. Endless playing in the thoughts of the same events differs from simple anxiety that is directed into the past and causes a person to waste time on hopeless reflections on what is long gone, that someone once said, and I could have in mind, although the event has long lost its relevance.
Let the experts to provide expert assistance. But we can also provide all possible support to the person if he is willing to accept it.
Any classes that stimulate physical and mental activity that can distract the person and to release from captivity his obsessive thoughts. Ask him to go for a walk, do yoga though, even kickboxing – any joint activities will only benefit they can bring an impressive result and significantly improve the condition of suffering from depression man.
ALTHOUGH I MAY NOT FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL, BUT BELIEVE IT’S HARD
Depression is a complex disorder that includes genetic, biological and psychological aspects.
Reaffirming that you are, although fully and not be aware of all the nuances of the illness that struck the man, however, acknowledge that this is not fiction, not empty words, but really the disease, which is difficult to fight, you take a step to the beginning of the confidential conversation.
Recognizing that depression is a real problem, really poisons life, you lay the foundations for understanding, will help a person to start a conversation without fear of condemnation.
SOMETIMES IT’S BETTER NOT TO SAY ANYTHING
It is impossible to overestimate the importance of listening. Sometimes it is enough just to sit and listen without saying anything or offering advice. Since suffering from depression often feel a sense of solitude and isolation from the rest of the world, your very presence is able to provide real support.
Don’t underestimate the power of influence of ordinary human warmth and engagement.
WHAT NOT TO SAY
YOU JUST NEED TO HIT THE SHOPS
Nothing is less useful than to tamper with someone’s suffering, rather, it even can hurt.
People with depression don’t want to be sad and pessimistic, and speak about this disease lightly, not recognizing the seriousness of the situation – it does not help.
Remember: clinical depression is a disorder that requires comprehensive treatment with medication and psychotherapy, but also requires changes in lifestyle, such as adding physical activity and, conversely, reduce the risk of stress.
YES, YOU JUST DON’T WANT TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER
Such statements lay the blame on the man who became the victim of depression.
Depression is difficult to treat, it is very difficult to get rid of, and no medication and treatment methods do not guarantee a perfect result.
People who have depression and already often get the feeling that they are not strong enough or do not possess the abilities in order to fight the disease, so such attacks and caustic comments in the spirit of “own fault” cause great harm, only exacerbating the plight of the patient. Is it not enough negative public attitudes to depression as something shameful, what is to be ashamed of?
YES, I HAD SOME TOO ONCE
People like to talk about myself, but if you’ve experienced a fleeting sadness, it does not mean that you have clinical depression.
Trying to show how well he understands the other, battling with depression, sometimes the interviewee is willing to share their own experiences, but he has no idea about the feelings that a person experiences, which is really sick. This can be understood only by those who have actually had a similar condition.
In this case, instead of talking about yourself, let your friend or family member to describe his feelings.
DO NOT WHINE, THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE WORSE THAN YOU
Clinical depression can cause problems with work, school or personal relationships.
Studies conducted by the world Health Organization show that sustainable change for the worse in mood, behavior and attitude towards life – and it’s all a business card of depression – in some cases, are the first signs of heart disease, diabetes and other metabolic disorders.
Note that the person with depression tend to withdraw into themselves and may see no way out of this situation.
The best course of action for someone who wants to help a close person to fight depression, is to remember that, although not in your power to completely cure it, you may give him help and support – he will be much better if he would not feel lonely and abandoned by everyone.