Regardless of whether you decide on pregnancy in your 20’s or 30, or prefer to spend life without children, a few simple questions to yourself will help you make a more informed decision.
It is always and at all times was a difficult choice: to give birth now or wait to conceive until a more favorable moment. Most just tended to “the birth of a child can never be fully ready.” Have sometime, but we’ll see. But in our enlightened age contraception women have the right to decide how and when to dispose of part of his life.
I’m ready to slow down or interrupt their careers?
Even moms-superheroes recognize care for children goes poorly with hard work. So be honest: chances to get into 1% of women that it is somehow compatible, you have little. But if you feel a super-power, think about the price you have to pay. This is double stress for you, anyway.
You should recognize that your experience, knowledge and achievements, even in one year of child care will lose much of its value. And your career growth will slow down or it will have to start again elsewhere. Inspiring stories from the TV series, it’s just a beautiful tale written by the writers.
So seriously think about your financial security are whether your place of work for you if you leave? How easily you will find work on a speciality at the new place?
Sometimes the best strategy is to first provide themselves with a more or less stable prospects (at least to find a job, obey the laws) and only then give birth and upbringing.
My partner is ready to become a father?
One of the most common women’s misconceptions about men is this: “I will tell him about the pregnancy, and then it will start to behave as expected of a man”.
Yes, that sometimes happens in some men wakes up the responsibility and they take their future fatherhood as a fait accompli. But it happens sometimes and not all. Most often it happens the opposite, the woman is left to solve her problems alone. Oh, he doesn’t even have to leave you, he just won’t be anything specifically to do.
So it is always honestly and openly discuss how you both plan to participate in the birth and upbringing of the child. Many couples break up shortly after the birth of a baby under the weight of all the stress. And if you have relationship problems now, it makes sense to solve them in advance. After will be just once, and the problem will be even greater.
Sometimes discuss your joint parenting is a good test to see whether you do to continue the relationship.
How will I survive the retreat?
If you love to meet friends, to go visiting and to parties, you will have to give this at least a year. Your new acquaintances will become colleagues, mothers, and the party will be held in the sandbox. And while you build relationships with a new social circle, it will take some time. You have to have patience, and get ready for the time of loneliness. In this case your partner will be your only and closest friend and it will depend on not only your material prosperity but also mental health. Another reason why you should discuss it together.
At what age I want to be a parent?
Now, when medicine allows to give birth with minimal risk in a wide age range, many believe that children can defer the question for later. It is, but look a little further. Whether you want 50 years of parenting 10-year-old child?
This is not irony or mockery, but a very serious adult issue. There are advantages and disadvantages in childbirth at the age of 20 and 40. In youth you are usually less secure, but more energetic. With age you become wiser and more tolerant, but you could have much greater tire baby chores. The question is, what do you personally think appropriate age.
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